“How are you?”

We're approaching World Mental Health Day so we wanted to check in.


This is undoubtedly a question we are all familiar with, and probably the question we get asked the most. Many of us respond with "fine thanks?" because that’s the auto-response we’ve become accustomed to give, whether we know the person, or not. It's the easy answer, which we know to be socially accepted/expected, even when perhaps we're not fine.


In society today we are challenged to speak up, share and really listen to one another. We are encouraged to ‘ask again‘ or reaffirm ‘how are you, really?’ and show a little more empathy, especially given what we've all been through over the last 18 months.


We battle a lot with information overload, have done for years, but the pandemic threw us into looking at ourselves in a much closer, honest and raw way. Businesses needed to find new routes to communicate and stay relevant, our connections were desperate to stay tied, and we were - and still are - totally overloaded.


Be it work, home, children or general life stresses, on their own or altogether, living can be overwhelming and quickly feel like existing or survival. The world never stops spinning and is often very loud and yet can feel very lonely. Taking a moment to stop, to breathe, and remind yourself of all the reasons to be grateful, can sometimes prove to be the positive first steps to winding down a busy mind.


If you can’t think because it's too loud, or you're feeling overwhelmed or anxious, stop and catch your breath. Our imagination is so powerful, we can have more than 6,000 thoughts in a single day. Untouchable thoughts that dictate our every move, emotion and behaviour that we can't see, feel or often even understand, yet know they steer everything.


So, "how are you?" are you are a small shop owner, a city hustler, or full time parent? "How is your week going? have you had a good day?" It's good to talk about the physical and mental challenges that behold us. We are all in this together and no one should have to walk alone, fearful of judgement. Talk to your friends, family, co-workers, heck even your dog (if they'll listen), and there are hundreds of support organisations that are there to lend an ear or give advice too.


Yes, sometimes we don’t think we have the time, energy, or brain capacity to work out how we feel, nevermind communicate our feelings. And sometimes we busy our lives on purpose, take on more and more commitments and distract ourselves with anything that stops us from thinking. (Definitely the case for one of our team!). But whatever it is that 'bothers' you, don't be afraid to talk about it, because who knows - the person you share your thoughts and feelings with, might just be thinking and feeling the same.


So, our two pennies worth, make time for yourself, listen to what your body and mind is telling you. The stresses of daily life are not worth getting upset and unhealthy over. Mental health is so important and there are so many wonderful ways to help improve your wellness - inside and out.


Stay safe! You're wonderful.


Shell, Jen and Chessy 💙



Mental Health Awareness - Useful Links


If you, or someone you know is struggling with, or showing the early signs of a mental health concern, here are a few extra links, apps, and podcasts we hope you will find useful:


Mental Health Websites:

Heads Together


Every Mind Matters


Mental Health Foundation


Samaritans


Papyrus


Mental Health Apps:

Headspace


Chill Panda


Calm Harm


Sleepio


Mental Health Podcasts:

Open Mind with Frankie Bridge


Russell Kane's Man Baggage


Happy Place Fearne Cotton


Happier with Gretchen Rubin